How to Calm Your Inner Anger
4 Ways That Actually Work
The term ‘inner anger’ sounds ominous, almost as if it were something to be afraid of. After all, anger is almost universally recognized as a negative emotion. It can make you aggressive, rude, and unpleasant to be around. However, although it may seem counterintuitive, research has also shown that a small amount of ‘controlled’ anger can have beneficial effects on your life. In this article we will look at what it means to have inner anger and some ways you can calm it down when it starts getting the better of you.
What is Inner Anger?
Inner Anger is a type of negative emotion that can come from many different sources. It could come from an external source, in which you are feeling angry at something or someone outside of yourself. Inner Anger could also come from an internal source, coming from a place of self-criticism or mild self-loathing. Anger is a powerful emotion that can be difficult to control, so if you feel that you are becoming angry frequently, it’s important to try and understand why so you can learn to control it better.
Why Do We Get Angry?
The reason we get angry actually varies from person to person. However, there are some common reasons that apply to most people.
One of these reasons is that anger is a natural response to something that seems unfair. You may feel angry against excessive authority, unfair treatment towards yourself or others, or when someone tries to tell you what to do.
Another common reason for feeling anger is anxiety, which is a natural response to uncertainty. Anger can be a way for you to try and control those feelings of uncertainty and bring some order to your world.
There are also certain people that we instinctively feel angry towards. For example, there are people who you have never met who have done something really bad. You might have heard about them on the news or seen them on social media and you feel anger towards them because they are doing something that you strongly disagree with.
How to Calm Your Anger
1. Breathing Exercise
A good technique for calming your breathing is to breathe deeply from your diaphragm. This is the muscle that is located at the bottom of your torso and is connected to your lungs. When you breathe from this muscle, you are able to take in more air with each breath and this can help to lower your heart rate and make you feel much calmer.
2. Write a Letter
Another effective way to calm your anger is to write a letter. In this letter, you are going to explain as clearly as possible why you are angry and what you want to happen as a result of this. Once you have explained your feelings in the letter, you can then tear it up and throw it away. This will symbolize letting go of those feelings of anger and can help you to move on from them more quickly.
3. Mediation
Meditation is easy to do and there are many different types of it that you can try. You can use a guided audio to help you to meditate or you can try some of these techniques on your own:
- Close your eyes
- Focus on your breath
- Find a mantra to repeat
- Rethink your anger
- Visualize a calming scene
- Find a common thread
- Find the root of your anger
- Consider if your anger is justified
4. Audio podcasts
You can also try listening to audio podcasts to work out your anger, understand yourself. The Sensera app will help you with this, where you will find tips and new thoughts to think about.
Inner anger is a normal human emotion. It is when we don’t know how to deal with it that it becomes a problem. It is important to understand why you are feeling the way you are so that you can learn to calm it down.
This article is written by a therapist from Sensera – a self-help app that provides daily CBT audio sessions and exercises. The app helps people deal with a variety of mental issues (anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship problems). Download Sensera now to become happier!
