How to Deal With Toxic Positivity

The Rules To Follow and Things to Remember

The world is filled with so much positivity these days that it’s hard to keep track of all the goodness. The positive vibe we get from the Internet, and social media is overwhelming.

We are bombarded with articles, quotes, photo images, videos, and other media that preach positivity as the key to success in every field of life. The problem is that many people take this too seriously and think that being positive all the time means not being negative or feeling anything else besides good vibes at all times.

These ideas are not necessarily toxic — in fact, they are pretty helpful most of the time — but when taken to extremes, they become poisonous and harmful to our mental health. In this article, we will discuss how you can deal with toxic positivity and remain balanced no matter what kind of message you get from the world around you.

What does “toxic positivity” mean?

Positivity is the feeling of being cheerful, optimistic, and happy. While this is a very good state of mind, some people usually take it to unhealthy extremes. They believe that positivity can solve any problem and that anyone who is not 100% positive always is wrong, ungrateful, and “negative.” This is where you run into “toxic positivity.”

Toxic positivity is an attitude towards life where you only focus on what is positive.

  • You think these negative emotions are destructive and should get rid of them as quickly as possible. And if you can’t get rid of them, you try to bury them and ignore them until they go away.
  • You always try to be happy because you believe that being positive is the most important thing. 
  • You think negative emotions like sadness and anger are toxic to your mental health.

The problem with extreme positivity

The problem with extreme positivity is that it is detrimental to your mental health. It is unhealthy to always focus on the good side of things and ignore the bad. It’s good to acknowledge your mistakes and feel regret, disappointment, and other negative emotions. 

You must let go of your negative emotions and regrets to move on. If you don’t deal with your negative emotions, if you don’t let them go, they will eat you up inside. And they will prevent you from moving forward in life. 

How to cope with toxic positivity

If you think you might be taking things too seriously, here are some steps you can take to bring balance to your life. 

  • Start by keeping a journal. Journaling is a very helpful technique for dealing with toxic positivity. It allows you to let go of your negative emotions and regrets in a very safe way. It’s like therapy, but cheaper and more convenient. Journaling is a great way to take control of your life. 
  • Spend time with people who keep you grounded. Not everyone is like you. Only some people are as positive as you are. Some people are more damaging than you are. This is a good thing. It keeps you grounded and helps you see things from a different perspective. 
  • Don’t try to change yourself. Don’t try to change yourself if you can’t deal with your negative emotions. You shouldn’t ignore your negative emotions just because other people around you expect you to deal with them.
  • Remember that your positivity is a choice. You don’t always have to be positive or ignore your negative emotions. You can choose to be positive or negative whenever you want.


The world is full of positivity, and that is amazing. But it’s also important to be realistic and keep a balance. There is no reason to try to be positive all the time. Sometimes, you will feel sad, angry, and disappointed. That’s normal and human. If you are taking things too seriously and feel you can’t deal with your negative emotions, take these 4 rules to follow and remember and use them to bring balance to your life.

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